To have sisters is a marvellous thing and I wouldn’t trade it for the world.
However, It can also be a difficult thing. Especially in a society that loves to compare and contrast things/people that are alike. My two sisters and I are close, some may say weirdly close. But I don’t particularly care either way because I love my sisters and our sisterly bond.
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I remember one time my younger sister came with me to the bank. I ended up getting roped into opening a TFSA despite having no clue as to what that even was at the time (I know now 😉 ). The guy that worked at the bank gave us an appraising look as we sat in an office and asked us in a somewhat accusatory tone “do you guys do everything together?”
It’s become somewhat of a running joke between us, because is it really that strange to go to the bank with your sister?
People mistake the three of us for triplets all the time. It’s funny to me because my older sister is 3 years older than me and my younger sister is 4 years younger. That’s pretty far apart and while we do look very similar, I think we each have our own unique look.
Something I struggled with for awhile is feeling that I was not succeeding while my two sisters were/are successful. It can be a bit of a drag because people compare you all the time and you never want to be known as the “failure.” My two sisters are beautiful and smart and successful in their fields. But last year I spent a lot of time feeling like a failure in my chosen field and therefore the family failure. It was hard. I still wouldn’t say I’m successful in my chosen field, but I certainly don’t feel like a failure anymore.
I do wonder though, do brothers get compared in the same way? Do siblings of differing genders get compared in the same way? I have my doubts about the amount of comparison that goes on and while I’m sure the other scenarios come with their own set of difficulties I can only express my experience as a woman with two sisters.
I can’t even tell you how many times someone has seen a picture of me and my sisters and immediately began dissecting it to me. She has the best “blank”, and this one must be “blank”, insert various kind adjectives. Sure it might be something nice that they’re saying but it always made me feel uncomfortable. We are people, each different, with our own strengths and weaknesses and I don’t think it’s fair to compare us. Sure we may look similar but trying to guess who the “smart” one is, for example, discredits the others.
I think we’re all smart. My younger sister is amazing with kids and she was always the best student. My older sister’s knowledge is more science-based and knows practically everything about animals. And me? I like to read, I’m naturally curious and I have a weird affinity for Linguistics. Who is to say which one of these types of smarts is “the best”, I think they’re all valid.
Anyways, this was just something on my mind lately. Do you have siblings? Do you feel like you get compared to them?
Have a independent and unique day!